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Thursday, September 3, 2009

Need Some Advice

I know I haven't blogged in a while, and it's because I really don't have the time. I'm hoping that the few of you who have me listed in your blog rolls will notice this post and respond. You see, I have a dilemma.

My hubby hasn't spent time with his brother since he was a toddler. Said brother is now 18, and visiting for a couple of weeks. MY 20 year old VERY pregnant sister is staying with us for a while. We drove to Chicago and back in one weekend. We left Chicago 3 pm Sunday and made it home 9:15 am Monday, so I had to take the day off, cuz I did ALL the driving (hubby has no license). Anyway, since we've gotten back, I feel like my hubby hasn't made any effort to spend alone time with me. I'm used to getting off work and chilling with him until I go to bed. I've had to share him since last Thursday. When I get home, he and his brother are playing the game. I can either watch them play, go chill with my sis in her room or on the couch, or go in my room ALONE. We all eat dinner together and watch something, then I go to bed ALONE. Then the two of them are up together until one of them calls it quits.

Now, my question is, am I being selfish to want some time with my husband? I know he hasn't really been around his brother in like 16 years, but damnit, don't I deserve some attention, too? Do I really have to be neglected because 'I'm his wife and I'm gonna be there forever; his brother won't' (his words, not mine)? I mean, seriously, if you're gonna stay up with him, why can't you tear yourself away from him for just an hour and come and spend some quality time with your wife? Please, people, help me out on this one!


laughing808 said...

I wouldn't necessarily say it's selfish of you for wanting quality time with your husband.

I think you should have a quick chat with your husband and let him know how you feel. In all honesty, you husband should be able to balance his time between you and the brother. Even is he sets a schedule to the tune of you getting two nights and the brother getting three nights.....or something of the likes.

At the very least your husband should let you know when the brother will leave so you know how long the brother will be around and then you two work out something where you wont feel neglected and your husband still gets to spend time with his brother.

Miss P said...

thanks for the advice. i sat him down and talked to him, and although he did say i should just be happy for him, he has managed to learn how to balance his time. all is right in the world again, lol

F.U. said...

Miss P...hey boo!!! I'm glad things are better and back to normal. Sometimes all it takes is a quick chat. People don't know unless they know, you know?